With the crackdown on little kids hugging, it seems the control freaks in society will not be satisfied until everyone is a bundle of neuroses. How will this trend affect future teens and future adults? Certainly not in a good way. Will responsible parents be forced to hold "hug and touch orgies" for their toddlers to allow them to develop normally? It seems there are plenty of sexually frustrated and repressed people already. Using the excuse of "sexual harassment", the social engineers are destroying a new generation like never before.
There is legitimate "sexual harassment". I am certainly not dismissing that. What I am dismissing, completely and absolutely, is the bogus idea that 4 or 5 year-olds are hugging or touching their friends for sexual thrills. At 6 years old I knew girls were strangely fascinating to me, but I was not sure why. Some people get that feeling about people of their own sex. No one needs to be crippled with guilt over their feelings.
It is natural and necessary for children and adolescents to engage in sexual play and exploration of increasing intensity as they grow into healthy adults. Current policies are derailing that. No one matures and becomes a sexually functional adult in a vacuum. Children and adolescents are being taught that any body contact, such as slapping the rear ends of their friends in a friendly way, is sexual and somehow bad. The control freaks will not be satisfied until every adult is completely neurotic.
Edited to add these links: Schools banning hugs and all contact. Four year old boy suspended for hugging aide.
I'm a little confused. Who said it's a problem that little kids are hugging? That's crazy.
ReplyDeleteI don't think anybody needs to smack anybody else on the rear end though. That's not because it's sexual, but because no one needs to hit anybody else.
Recently on the news there have been stories on at least 2 schools that have implemented "no hugging" or "zero tolerance-no touching" policies. I saw a story about another one just yesterday.
ReplyDeleteThen there was the 4 year old who pressed his face into the teachers' aide's cleavage when she hugged him and he was disciplined for sexual harassment about 2 weeks ago.
The article I read about the rear-slapping said that no one involved was upset in any way, but that it simply violated the school's policy. The kids, the slappers and the slappees, were all insistant that it was simply a greeting and wasn't done to hurt anyone. No victim, no harm.
I think this is a slippery slope and has already gotten out of hand.
Sexual harassment by a four-year-old? LOL, I just can't imagine that really happened. If it did, then someone needs to find out who has been sexualizing the child, because that's the only way it could happen. It sounds to me like the teacher has a few screws loose, though.
ReplyDeleteA lot of sexual dysfunction is caused by repressed parenting, this is true. However, lack of bonding (in which touch plays a very large part) can also cause serious longterm harm to the basic personality.
Those disorders affect a lot more people in much more serious ways than sexual repression ever could. After all, if someone is sexually repressed it may affect them and their lover, but their lover is free to leave if it's a problem for them. If someone is a sociopath or a borderline personality, it affects everyone with whom they come into contact, and there is no effective treatment.
However, by the time children are old enough to smack each other on the rear end as part of sports, a greeting etc., they are no longer in danger of suffering psychologically from lack of touch, so I don't have a problem if a school says it's not okay to do that. I can also understand why they would say it's unacceptable in the school environment.