"Our government".
"Our troops".
"My president".
"My congressman".
"Our laws".
"Our police".
"Our schools".
If you say any of the above, you are a big part of the problem.
I'm not telling you to stop saying those things, but I would remind you that words have meanings, and sometimes the way you use words can warp the way you think about things to the point that reality becomes a problem for you. Stop and think before you parrot the popular phraseology.
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