Looking in from the outside it can be hard to tell a non-consensual relationship from a voluntary one. Or at least it seems many people can't tell the difference.
They see people choosing to work for an employer and to them, it looks the same as a person living under a slave-master.
They see a person going to the grocery store and it looks the same to them as a person standing in line at the DMV.
They see an organized social club and to them, it looks the same as a government.
Yet, in each pair, one is voluntary and one is not. Learn to see the difference.
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Reminder: I could really use some consensual help.