I recently lost a dear friend on Facebook, who was also a friend before Facebook. And it really upset me.
Earlier this week on Facebook, when I posted that I often forget how indoctrinated most people are, this person commented that they forget how judgmental most people are. I didn't even realize at the time they were referring to me, until I noticed they were no longer a Facebook friend.
But I answered the comment, anyway. At first I said some people are, but not everyone.
Then, I reconsidered.
I think everyone is judgmental- but people express it in different ways.
It is one thing to judge something as right or wrong- I suppose everyone does that. It's another thing entirely to impose your will on people doing something you see as wrong.
There are a lot of things I believe are wrong, but which I will defend people's right to do.
If you aren't stealing or attacking, I might still not agree with what you're doing, but I wouldn't use force to stop you. I might try to talk you out of it. I might shun you. I might make fun of you or say what an evil monster you are. I will only use force if I see you engaging in theft or aggression.
I'm not sure why that's such a difficult thing for some people to grasp.
I suspect this person abandoned me because of my stance against cops and the "conservative" politicians they like, although they never actually explained. (I had to go through a mutual friend to even find out anything at all, and to get an answer which involved me and my "high horse").
I can't lie to protect feelings or friendships... but it still hurts.
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