So, a woman thinks she wants to marry Charles Manson. That's bizarre, but it's her business.
It's also no more bizarre than women who are attracted to cops or those in the military.
So, why do people seem to be shocked by her decision, but not by women who chase uniforms? If you are attracted to aggressive individuals (including, obviously, those who "only" advocate and delegate aggression), what difference does it make how they carry out their evil? Why would it matter that their aggression is "officially sanctioned"?
It really doesn't.
It seems like a psychological problem to me.
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